We are in the midst of the holiday season. This time is seen by many as a time for gathering and giving which can promote positive feelings and be a protective factor for good mental health. Spending time with others is a way to combat feelings of isolation. Giving to others is a another way to enhance self-esteem and reduce feelings of hopelessness . However, if one starts to feel overwhelmed from the holiday cheer, it is important to take a moment to reset. Here are a few tips to help make the most out of your holiday season:
1. Set Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries make the experience healthier for everyone. Create a time and money budget for yourself.
Time: Commit to yourself first by setting a realistic number of events that you can handle in one day. Make a point to say “yes” and “no” and mean both of them. Take a moment to think about any events that feel draining to you and make a point to schedule down time or an energizing activity on that same day. Keep your calendar up to date.
Money: Set spending limits. Check to see if the costs of gifts or donations is putting a strain on your finances. Ask yourself what meaning is being placed on the cost of giving and is it realistic to your current financial situation.
2. Schedule Some Down Time
Our capacity to give to others is not infinite. We need time to recharge. Set aside some intentional time to do something for yourself. Focus on the time that you can set aside instead of what you cannot do. Start as small as 5 minutes and add increments of time to eventually expand to at least 30 minutes. If 30 minutes does not feel realistic, start with 15 minutes. If that does not feel realistic, take a moment to assess your relationship with time and the purpose of being busy. An overloaded schedule where one can never take 15 minutes for oneself, is a warning sign that the relationship with time needs some attention.
3. Create a New Tradition
Feeling drained by the same traditions or sad because you are unable to participate may come up during this time of year. Our minds are sparked by new experiences. Create a new tradition to ignite this spark. What will this new tradition represent? What is the vibe that you want to resonate? What core value do you want to honor? The tradition does not have to be serious, feel free to infuse some fun and silliness.
These tips are a few ways to practice mental hygiene during the holiday season. Remember, there is no one way to feel during this time. However, there is a difference between feeling down and depression. If you are experiencing hopelessness, suicidal thoughts, loss of pleasure, and low motivation or if you or others around you have expressed concern, seek support from a mental health professional.